Mixed Up Money (recovery) with Financial Nerd Alyssa Davies

This month we’re sitting down with guests to talk about the big M word. That's right, money, honey. We're going deep into how we relate to, avoid relating to, and hate relating to it. Yikes! That sounds heavy, but luckily in this episode, we’re joined by the prolific money mindset creator, Alyssa Davies of Mixed Up Money.

Alyssa Davies is a published author living in Calgary, Alberta. She is the founder of the two-time award-winning Canadian Personal Finance Blog of the Year, Mixed Up Money. Check out her books, The 100-Day Financial Goal Journal, and Financial First Aid.

We're also upvoting Alyssa's brand-new pod, moneyfeels.buzzsprout.com, which comes out this Thursday

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Also in relationships, so many of us feel this immense amount of pressure to contribute financially. But I have to remind everyone that it's not just the only way to contribute to a relationship. There are so many other ways, some of them might not be paid, but they still matter. And they still oftentimes help the other person be successful in their financial goals. So regardless of who's providing what in a relationship, each of you is providing something valid.

- Alyssa Davies

“I could have spent weeks arguing with these strangers in my comment section. But you know, I’ve learned to just block, and move on.”
— Alyssa Davies
“I’ve gotten a lot more comfortable with people not accepting the way that I do money because I’ve been on the internet now for seven years. And through that time, I’ve had many people judging or critiquing how I do things with my money. So I’ve had to learn to have a thick skin.”
— Alyssa Davies
“Some years, you will be extremely successful and be able to accomplish all the goals on your list and save and earn a ton of money. Other years will be the complete opposite. No matter how well you did the year before, it doesn’t always work that way. So it’s okay to have an imperfect year, to not hit your goals, to accept that not everything will always go the way that we plan.”
— Alyssa Davies
“If you grew up in poverty, it impacts your ability to perform and be productive. So it’s not something you can kind of just flick a switch and fix. But I will say that I do a lot of things now that might sound silly to other people, but I have to do them to give myself permission when it comes to my money.”
— Alyssa Davies

    • Your financial situation, and how it’s impacting your everyday life

    • Alyssa’s turning point around her financial situation

    • What made Alyssa go back to school

    • Being in school versus working full time

    • How the idea of not having an income may result in anxiety

    • Addressing our own money trauma

    • Finding balance and relearning how to enjoy money

    • Wallis describes her household where “money’ was a taboo

    • The pros of being transparent about your financial situation

    • How to break out of the uber-frugal mindset?

    • How does financial management look like for Alyssa

    • Alyssa shared her buying decision process

    • Compartmentalizing your money goals

    • Opening different savings accounts for every goal — how does that help in financial management

    • Saving money and reducing the amount of interest you're paying versus reducing the amount of stress you’re carrying

    • Looking at how we actually are as humans, and understanding our habits

    • What was one of the things Wallis and her partner had to really talk about prior to moving in together

    • Money isn't linear.

    • Do we have to be exponentially better every single year?

    • Different forms of labor and contribution in a relationship other than money

Resources and People Mentioned

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